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Dr. Julie Koch, Wilkes Pediatric Clinic reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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My son and daughter have been students of Master Matheny for 5-6 years. It’s helped with their concentration at school. They’ve learned discipline and focus, which extends into their academic and extracurricular activities. I’ve also been pleased to see the confidence it has built in them. I have been very impressed with Master Matheny's teaching style. He balances encouragement and enthusiasm with discipline and expecting the most from his students.

Kevin Brown, Pastor of Mount Pleasant Baptist Church reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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'SKILLZ Martial Arts is helping to teach my son great life lessons and skills through karate. Andrew is pumped each and every time he goes to karate and his confidence and skills are growing each week.'

Debbie Adams Marley reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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Our son is enrolled for his first time in martial arts and he loves it at Skillz Martial Arts. The atmosphere is great, the instructors are awesome and the programs are designed to cater to each age group. I highly recommend this dojo!

Christie Collins reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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"I like the way my children are learning to be more attentive, developing good self-esteem and gaining skills to help them during their entire lifetime"

Lola Mills reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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"It is a good stress reliever and a lot of fun! As a young woman, the classes teach me ways to protect myself, and knowledge that I can carry throughout life.

Chad Whitley reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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“My children love learning karate at SKILLZ Martial arts! All of the instructors are amazing! The classes are well structured and designed to teach skills that are developmentally appropriate for different age levels. My children were having so much fun, I decided to try the adult class, and now I'm having a blast as a martial arts student as well!”

Jennifer Johnson reviewed SKILLZ Martial Arts
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“My 6-year-old really enjoys his karate class. It has helped him learn to focus and pay attention. Also, it has helped his self-confidence. I am very pleased with his lessons. I would highly recommend Skillz Martial Arts to anyone interested in improving self-esteem, self-control, and self-discipline for their child. Master Scott is a wonderful role model that the kids look up to and respect."

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Empowering vs Enabling – The Fine Line of Parenting

We live in a competitive world, and most parents would jump at the chance to give their child every advantage imaginable. The world can also be unkind, and, as parents, we feel a need to protect our children from everything possible. And yes, parents are supposed to help and protect their children, but when does supporting children turn into overhelping?

The difference between the two is a very fine line and is often very difficult to decipher.

Responsible parenting means providing food, clothing, and shelter, giving attention and love, and protecting our children from danger. It does not mean doing everything for them and protecting them from anything that may bring them grief.

This type of over-protective parenting is excessive and can develop due to a parent’s fear, anxiety, or peer pressure from other parents. It can also be a way that parents overcompensate for the problematic childhood they experienced. While the hyper-involvement comes from a place of love, it can actually hinder a child’s ability to achieve autonomy.

In child development terms, autonomy develops when children can function independently and have choices.

Without this autonomy, children may experience what psychologist Erik Erikson called “shame and doubt,” which leads to decreased confidence and increased anxiety. When parents make all the decisions and fix all the problems for their children, those children have underdeveloped coping and life skills. The goal should not be to raise dependent children but, instead, to raise resilient and confident ones.

For this to happen, parents must empower their children by teaching self-reliance.

The goal is to raise children who are independent and stable on their own. Children must be allowed to make mistakes and learn to be resourceful in finding solutions to problems that present themselves. Parents can do this by supporting their children without completely removing themselves from the process.

It is vital to a child’s sense of independence that parents to be there for their children as a sounding board. When a child knows they have a parent supporting them while they explores life’s adventures, the child will develop healthy coping strategies and feel more confident in their decision making.

One way to do this is by letting children make mistakes in a safe environment.

In the SKILLZ program taught at SKILLZ Martial Arts, instructors utilize the classroom as a way to foster autonomy while teaching the skill of the day. By using Teaching SKILLZ such as “making choices” and “intrinsic motivation,” instructors are providing opportunities for children to make their own decisions so they feel confident. When kids make a mistake, instructors are there to coach them through the challenge by using positive “re-direction” to get them back on track so they can try again.

The line between empowering and enabling is a very fine one, but as career and life coach Maura Koutoujian put it, “When a child is enabled, they miss out in the opportunity to cultivate intrinsic motivation – a critical component in developing accountability and self-confidence.”

Although it’s hard for parents to see their children struggle, hurt and disappointment are a part of life and children need to develop ways to overcome those things on their own. Supportive parenting should always move children closer to independence and stability, which will lead to resilient adults in the future.

To learn more about the powerful Skillz childhood development program that uses martial arts as the vehicle for growth, or to get your child started at our Cornelius location, give us a call. Due to recent events we now offer virtual classes! Send us a message to find out more!